Friday, March 20, 2009

Do friendships change after marriage?

A lot of friendships do get transformed after marriage. We explore why... Do friendships change after marriage? Accept it. Once you take the vows, it’s obvious that your friendships will change.It could be your guy friends who start getting more protective or your single girl friends who start to distance themselves from you. Whatever the case may be, post marriage, friendships are viewed in a different light. You are not the same person who can attend calls at any hour of the day or slip out for a sip of coffee when your friend is down and out. All because marriage is definitely a lifestyle change. And it is not only married couples who try to adjust to the new environment,but even friends find it difficult to adjust to the new you. And mind you, this is not the case only with your same sex friends. It gets even trickier with friends of the opposite sex. “First of all a partner needs to ensure that his/her friendship with the opposite sexisn’t hampering their married life. They should meet in their partners’ presence toooften so as to build trust. And also, it should be ensured that it’s a platonic relationship.If not, such relationships should be left back in time,” advises phsycologist Dr Neelam Kapoor. Also, both partners must realise that they have had a different set of friends before marriage.Psychiatrist Pankaj Vohra opines, “Neither of the partners feels close to the other set of friends unless both of them actually make an effort to feel welcomed. If this is not dealt with on time, people usually end up losing close friends.” Don’t get yourself in the position to say -
'Our friendship was great till it lasted!'
Coming to Myside...I feel so comfort in stating this "We three are company today" :)

2 comments:

Ramya said...

No I guess not but after marriage our priorities keeps on changing so we may put back some things.

Smitha.V said...

I agree that after marraige ppl get new relations as well as responsibilities so it becomes difficult to balance but its not the same with all.