Thursday, June 24, 2010

Object Oriented Life..!!!


Life is full of options these days..whatever it be..
We have options..BJP or Congress ???
Wipro bus or APSRTC ???
Flat or PG ???
Cook food or call Dominoz ??? If not Instant MAGGI :) hehe
Aerobics or yoga..???
(Ritz ad says we dont have an option in Cars other than them.. good for Ritz)
so was juggling with some career options.. and found it was pure C++..!!!We all inherit some readymade goals from our parents/society..goals which will guarantee u a succesfulimage even if u are not..!!!just like how instant sambhar powder gives u sambhar with a taste not exactly uwanted and u can claim that u made sambhar or u had sambhar for lunch.. no onecares about how was the sambhar ( Data abstraction ??? )so point is readymade goals..For most of us this can be as follows..
Study well in school..Score well in maths..score above 80/85/90 ( Level1/Level2/Level3) in board exams..Crack entrances and be in a good engineering college..Get placed with some tier 1 company..after 2 years write all Bschool entrances.. Get into some top level Bschool..Get placed in some bada company as a manager.. if u are not getting to a bschool , earn a lot of money as an engineer.. Glad to meet u Mr.Successs …!!!who ever does this is socially accepted as succesful eventhough ur dream was to be a writer and u hate IT.. You eventually end up as a “role model” for ur younger cousins for how to be “Succesfull”… and these days i am realizing tht i am not soo happy with this“readymade goal” system.. problem is i am always looking outside.. if i am doing well as my peers i am happy and if I am doing bad and my peers also doing bad , even then I am Ok..means i am having same Okness inspite of what my performance is.. all tht work is theory of relativity..!!!I have seen ppl so happy and talented and working smart. One fine day they become so unhappyand frustrated saying he/she is a loser.. and if u ask the reason nothing changed for the person.. but something changed for others around the person.. happens to me also.. its not jealousy.. just a side effect of ”Readymade goals”.. We donno what we actually wantin life.. We are doing things as Others do and pretending to be happy bcoz others think u are succesful.. and we are just copying or inheriting goals which ensures ”success” becoz some otherX,Y or Z was called succesful following these steps and may be that X,Y, or Z inherited those stepsfrom some other P,Q or R for the same reason..and when one day u see urself ”less succesful” thanur peers it hurts and u start calling urself a loser and others also start calling u a loser bcoz u urself says so.So how come this goals object oriented..
Virtual Goal functions.. we inherit them from base ( Society/Family )we have two options.. override it.. or use the sameone we got from society.some smart and brilliant ppl override them to suit their own goals and dreams and start working forthem. so all time they know what they want and what they have to do and what difference their actions make in their life..they are happy and most importantly they wont compare them with otherss.. they have their own goals and they are working on it.I have a friend who stoped engineering studies as he was so passionate about stock trading.. and today he is succesfully running a Finance company in bangalore.. I know another friend who quit his job for another job which pays half of his previous salary and he says he is happy bcoz he is learning his fav field AeroModelling ( or something like tht..) and Today i got a Fwd which said abt a young girl from kerala who is the youngest CEO in the world (
http://www.edesign.co.in/ ) and here I am thinking about them as “Lucky ppl”.and majority on the other side ( In India its always safe to be with the majority ) dont override them and will keep on getting socially defined “Return Values” and starts complaining that “life is boring”@ the age of 25..!!!Lets hope for a tomorrow where all inherited “functions” are declared pure virtual functions so that a next generation can override all of them so as to help to achieve their dream and passion.
If someone want to ask me why i am not overriding my functions today instead of wishing tomorrow’s kids success.. come on.. i am 25 years old.. and its tooooo old for a change.. hehe




--Life is a Do it yourself project !!!

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Being In Twenties - Really a 20-20 :)


Hello,
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."

(((FATE DETERMINES WHO COMES INTO OUR LIVES
..........................HEART DETERMINES WHO STAYS )))

-With Luv
RajkumaR